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Do It Yourself Weddings Guide, Issue #005 -- Wedding Seating Arrangement Pros & Cons
November 15, 2005

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Contents of this issue of Do It Yourself Weddings Guide

  • What's New at Do It Yourself Weddings - New Articles
  • Winter Wedding Colors Poll Results
  • Featured Article: Wedding Seating Arrangement Choices: Pros & Cons

What's New at Do It Yourself Weddings

New Articles - Photos and instructions for Using Paper Punches for Your Do It Yourself Wedding Invitations or programs. Decorative paper punches are so easy and create very elegant, expensive looking results. Decorate invites, envelopes, programs, place setting cards and more!

Need to thanks your bridesmaids and don’t want to give them a boring gift? This Photo Bag Bridesmaid Gift Idea is so cool you’ll want to make one for yourself too. Use our own photos or even drawings to personalize a make-up bag for your bridesmaids.

Want to read more wedding stuff? We have All New Magazine & Book Recommendations for at home and on the couch reading pleasure. Nothing better than getting cozy with some hot cocoa and some glossy magazines or books.

Winter Wedding Colors Poll Results

Last issue we asked the winter brides what colors they are featuring in their wedding. Here are a few of the replies for your inspiration:

“I will be using deep red roses and linens and then white tulle with white lights.” -Caitlyn

“My colors are garnet and olive green. Garnets are my favorite gemstone and green is my fiancé’s favorite color so we combined them.” -J.S.

“For my December wedding next year I think I’ve decided on white rose bouquets and centerpieces and red bridesmaid dresses.” -Heather D.

Thanks for all your replies! The only winter wedding color “trend” from our poll is red. Lots and lots of red tones paired with other colors. All of your color choices sound beautiful, and they are all unique.

Featured Article: Wedding Seating Arrangement Choices: Pros & Cons

It seems like wedding seating arrangements are the one thing (other than the guest list) that brides tear their hair out most over. Just when you think you have it all planned out, you realize that you forgot someone and have uneven numbers. Since it is nearly impossible to plan seating before rsvps come in, this is something that you can’t even do until the last minute, adding to the stress.

I remember working with a friend on her wedding seating arrangements for hours when we thought we finally had it worked out, only to have her mother tear her ideas to shreds. “You can’t seat Uncle Andy near Cousin Becky,” she’d say…and the whole arrangement would have to be scrapped and begun again. Don’t under estimate the amount of work it may take to figure out your seating, although using reserved seating is completely up to you in the first place.

First of all, decide if you will have a wedding seating arrangement at all. If you are having a buffet, a seating arrangement is optional. If your wedding has a more casual vibe, “free for all” seating may work well. Pros: You don’t have to plan it! Cons: Guests who don’t know many other guests or are shy might feel uncomfortable and not know where to sit. (Think back to grade school when you walked around with the tray, hoping to find friends to sit with at lunch.) You yourself may even end up sitting at a table with people that wouldn’t be your first choice—you can fix this by having just one table reserved.

If a “free for all” wedding seating arrangement is not for you, your next choices are to have reserved tables or reserved seating. With reserved tables you dictate which tables the guests sit at, but they choose the actual seat at that table, and with reserved seating their actual place at the table is pre-determined. Reserved seating is great for a very formal wedding, where you will generally seat guests male/female/male/female around tables. Reserved tables are less formal, and although guests will still have to mix they can choose whom to sit directly next to at their table.

The most important thing to consider first is where you will sit. Do you want to be at a “sweetheart” table where it is just the two of you? The nice thing about this wedding seating arrangement is that you don’t have to stress over who will sit at your table, which can be tricky especially if there are divorced parents involved. The bad thing about this one is that you may feel isolated or that you are “on stage” while you are eating. Perhaps you’ll sit at a table with your parents, with your close friends or with the bridal party. Once you decide where you want to sit you can build your wedding seating arrangement around it.

Keep in mind that your wedding seating arrangement also depends entirely upon the type of tables you will have. Planning seating for long rectangular tables that seat 20 is very different than planning for round tables that seat only 8 guests. If you are renting tables or have a choice in tables, decide first on what type of seating arrangement you want to have.

Don’t tear your hair out (too much) over your wedding seating arrangements!

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